RULES FOR REACHING A GOOD OLD AGE  

Happy old age1.  It’s time to use the money you saved up.  Use it and enjoy it.  Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it.  Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital.  Enjoy the present moment. The sand in the clock may run out at any moment.

2.  Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could.  You gave them an education, food, shelter and support.  The responsibility is now theirs to earn their way.

3.  Keep a healthy life with moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep.  It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy.  Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you’re feeling well.   Stay informed.

4.  Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other.  The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner.  One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then.  Enjoy it together.

5.  Don’t stress over the little things.   You’ve already overcome so much in your life.  You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present.   Don’t let the past drag you down or the future frighten you.

6.   Regardless of age, always keep love alive.   Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, your surroundings, your country.   We are never old as long as we have intelligence and affection.

7.  Be proud, both inside and out.   Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber.  Do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist.   Keep your perfumes and creams well stocked.   When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong on the inside.

8.  Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing sillier than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters.   You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it.   It’s part of who you are.

9.  Read newspapers, watch the news.   Go online and read what people are saying.  Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks.  You’ll be surprised which old friends you’ll meet.   Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10.  Respect the younger generation and their opinions.   They may not have the same viewpoints as ours, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction.  Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today.

11.  Never use the phrase:  “In my  time.”  Your time is now.   As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.   You have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12.  Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly.   Life is too short to waste your days in the latter mode.   Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better.   Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13.  Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your  children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that  is).  Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy.   They need theirs and you need  yours.   If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest  condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

14.  Don’t abandon your hobbies.   If you don’t have any, make new ones.   You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance.   You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess dominoes, golf.   You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or collect certain items.   Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15.  Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations.   Baptisms, graduations, birthdays,  weddings, conferences.   Try to go.   Get out of  the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old).   But don’t get upset  when you’re not invited.   Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted.   The important thing is to leave the house from time to time.  Go to museums, go walk through a field.   Get out there.

16.  Be a conversationalist.    Talk less and listen more.   Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested.  That’s a great way of reducing the desire to speak with you.  Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to.  Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to.  Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints.  Always find some good things to say as well.

17.  Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older.  Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through.  Try to minimize them in your mind.  They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you.  If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18.   If you’ve been offended by others, forgive them.   If you’ve offended someone – apologize.   Don’t drag  resentment around with you.   It will make you sad and bitter.  It doesn’t matter who was right.   Someone once said, “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  Don’t take that poison.   Forgive and move on with your life.

19.  If you have a strong belief, savor it.   But don’t waste your time trying to convince others.  They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration.   Live your faith and set an example.   Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

20.  Laugh.  Laugh A LOT.  Laugh at everything.   Remember, you are one of the lucky ones.  You managed to have a life, a long one.   Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life.   But you did. So what’s not to laugh about?  Find the humor in your situation.

21.  Take no notice of what others say about you and even less of what they might be thinking.   They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved.   Let them talk and don’t worry.   They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far.   There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think.   Now is the time to be free, at peace and as happy as you can be!
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About Dick and Danna

OUR BUCKET LIST: 1950 First kid in the area with a portable radio on my bike when I was in grade school........... 1951 Built a 5 watt radio transmitter when I was in high school and went on the radio from home. Not the most legal thing to do. Built a PA system from scratch also........... 1951-1954 Learned to play Steel Guitar. Played many shows of country music on 6 different radio stations with different groups in Western Pennsylvania........... 1954 Married Danna Lewis at when she was 15 years old........... 1960 Got into Citizen Band Radio. Danna and I were two of the original founders of CB Rangers CB club in Butler. We published a call book of all of the CBers in the Tri-State area............ 1969 Danna and I were two of the original founders of the Tri-State Country Music Association. I wrote a column for their newspaper every month........... 1960 We went to Nashville. Met Ralph Emery of WSM radio and Archie Campbell, a Hee Haw TV Entertainer. Had coffee with them at Linbaugh’s Restaurant in Nashville. Archie bought the coffee........... 1965 We developed a successful network marketing business. In later years developed a few others. Greatest training on attitudes and success........... 1968 Had a Built an outdoor stage. Had a country music jam session on our lawn at home with around 500 musicians and their family from 5 different states........... 1969 Played music on the staff band of the WWVA Jamboree and backed up all of the entertainers in front of thousands of people for 4 months. WWVA was second largest country music show at that time next to WSM Grand Old Opry........... 1984 Danna started her own typesetting business in her home. Danna Vernon Graphics had customers in 3 counties. Very successful. She taught herself how to run the typesetter machine. It was a photo typesetter. She also did layout work for printers........... 1988 I taught the secretaries at Butler hospital how to use word processing and computers, but I never had any schooling or education on it. I also did some computer programming. Before this I ran the printing operation at the hospital........... 1989 I quit a good computer job and Danna and I bought a printing franchise, Minuteman Press in Butler PA. Operated it for 5 years............ 1994 We bought a motor home. went to Florida. Spent 9 years going to Florida for 6 months every year and back to Pennsylvania for 6 months............ 1995 We played music with “Spur of the Moment” band in Florida........... 2001 Never knew my dad. Met him in 2001 and Danna and I spent a wonderful 5 years together before he passed away. Went on a wonderful 2 weeks tour of Europe (5 countries) with him. He lived in Bradenton Florida........... 2002 Danna started singing and ended up running the Suncoast Jamboree in Florida, She had her own band and scheduled everything. She sang and emcee’d the show. Played many of the RV parks in the area........... 2004 Started a recording studio in Pa and FL. Danna recorded numerous CD’s........... 2007 Since I was a little kid, I have always wanted to wear the spots off a deck of cards. I finally accomplished it this year. Threw the deck away........... 2010 We started and played in various Gospel Music Groups. Country Transition, Good News Country Gospel. Played churches all over Western Pennsylvania........... 2010 We played music on television shows on WHCU-TV Kittanning........... 2010-2014 Danna and I did a 30 minute interview talk show, Danna’s Radio Diner, on WTYM & WAVL radio. Over 30,000 hits from over 100 countries on our website as of June 2017. Still get many hits every day........... 2010 Danna and I were on TV participating in Family Life TV WHKU helping their Christmas Auction on television........... 2011 Danna and I both read our first commercial to be broadcast on WTYM radio. Also I wrote a radio promo and a short radio script........... 2012 Operated a TV camera on a live TV show on WKHU-TV........... 2013 Produced an hour TV show – Armstrong Trails on WKHU-TV Kittanning, PA. Produced a monthly live country music dinner show with various bands at WTYM radio........... 2014 We went on a country music cruise and interviewed 12 top county music TV stars for our radio show........... 2014 Rode for an hour in the cab beside the engineer of a locomotive on Kiski Jct. railroad. Broadcast it on one of our radio shows........... 2014 Played Steel for Nashvile recording star Teea Goans when they came to Kittanning on WKHU-TH and WTYM Radio. Also in 2013 backed up Joann Cash (Johnny Cash sister)........... 2015 Started Danna’s Internet Café, an internet radio show. Also shows were run on WXED-FM 107.3 and WFSN-FM 96.7. for a year and a half........... 2016 I bought a Uke Bass and learned to play it. Played a jam session a week later. Sounds like a big upright bass.
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